Dating

It’s no great secret or myth that the hottest women in Ukraine are typically from Odessa, Ukraine. Many people have wondered why that is?

Is it because of the sea?

Is it the Southern region which is home to people of different ethnicities?

Or is it something else?

Personally, I think it’s the combination of the above. There’s absolutely no doubt that Odessa’s location all the way in the southern part of the country definitely has to do with its inhabitants being more “exotic” and sexier than the rest of the population.

Physical features

A typical girl from Odessa looks and acts different when compared to the women in other parts of the country. First of all, she has a slighter darker skin tone. Women from Odessa more resemble Southern Europeans like Italians or Spaniards than Ukrainian women with their light skin tone and Slavic complexion.

I once traveled to Spain with my ex-girlfriend who was from Odessa. Although I speak fluent Spanish, it was her who was always approached in Spanish by both men and women. She had dark olive skin and definitely looked more Spanish than Ukrainian.

Another thing that sets Odessa women apart from other Ukrainian women (and also women from other countries) is that women in Odessa are always wearing very stylish threads. In the summer, when people are going to the beach, you can bet that the women will be wearing very stylish bathing suits and bras. But also in the winter, they love to wear very stylish winter clothing.

This definitely sets them apart from women in other regions of Ukraine, including the capital. Let’s be honest: Ukraine isn’t exactly a country known for its high fashion and well-dressed people like other countries like Italy or France. The men are probably the worst offenders since it’s a well-known fact that Eastern European men simply don’t know how to dress to impress and still mostly wear vintage Soviet clothing.

The women dress a bit better in Ukraine, but in Odessa, things are taken up several notches.

Where to meet during the day

The women in Odessa are used to be approached by guys so they’re not going to be surprised or shocked when you approach them. That’s because during the summer, the city is swarmed by many foreigners including mostly Turkish men who’re looking to have some fun.

If you’re in the city, a great place to approach women is the center of the city, including the famous Derribasovskaya Street.

In fact, pretty much anywhere in the center is a solid option to meet women. Just approach them anywhere you like.

If you’re at the beach, then things definitely get more interesting. In the summer, the beach is the place to meet women as local women (and foreign) are looking for their summer fling.

As I explained previously, the best places to meet women would be the Arcadia beach along with the two clubs in the area: Ithaca and Ibiza.

Both clubs require you to pay not only an entry fee, but also a fee for beach chairs and mattresses.

There are two main areas to hang out: near the sea or near the pool. The last time I was there, I spent my time hanging out near the sea, but if I had to do it again, I would definitely hang out near the pool. It’s cleaner and just much more aesthetically pleasing to be near the pool instead of near the sea.

So, if you’re planning to have a good time at one of the main clubs, I definitely recommend you to spend time near the pool instead of near the sea.

Where to meet women during the night

If you’re looking to meet women during the night, you have a ton of options. The first option main option is to meet women in various pubs, bars and clubs scattered throughout the center. There are tons of them, so I can’t really list them all here.

The second option is to head to one of the main clubs that I mentioned earlier: Ithaca and Ibiza. During the day these clubs serve as great beach clubs, but at night they turn into full-fledged nightclubs.

Although I haven’t really been to either club at night, I definitely heard great things about these places. So, if you’re in town, it’s definitely worth to check them out.

Are women from Odessa more or less difficult?

This is a question that’s on top of every guy’s mind. In my opinion, the women in Odessa are definitely more difficult than women from other regions. Although I had no problems getting dates, I couldn’t close any women to save my life. It was ridiculously difficult to get a kiss or go further.

Plus, I noticed that women were very flaky. I can’t tell you how many times I would arrange a date, confirm it on the same day, only to see them call an hour before and flake for some weird reason. This happened quite often.

Compare that to the women in Kiev, and the difference is clear: it’s much easier to meet and hang out with women in other cities than in Odessa.

I suppose because they’re much prettier and sexier than in other regions, they feel they have the right to flake and be more difficult than other women.

Who knows, maybe you’ll have much better luck, but I certainly struggled heavily in this beautiful sea town as compared to when I lived in other cities.

Final thoughts

So, there you have it, a guide to meeting and seducing women in the beautiful sea-side town of Odessa. While these certainly aren’t the easiest women, it’s definitely worth a visit for the sun and R&R.

Have fun!

Not all Ukrainian cities are ideal for meeting women. Some cities are definitely better than others. I have traveled all over Ukraine, so today I want to discuss which cities are great for meeting women and which cities aren’t.

The thing about Ukraine is that it’s a relatively big country—actually, the biggest in Europe just behind Russia—and different parts of the country have completely different types of people.

Western Ukraine

In the Western part, there are cities like Lviv, Ivano-Frankovich and Chernivtsi. These cities more resemble the neighboring countries of Poland, Hungary and Slovakia than Ukraine itself. That should be no surprise because before WWII, these cities were actually part of the neighborhood countries. Then, when the Soviet Union won the war, Stalin annexed this region from the other countries.

Even the religion is different in Western Ukraine: most people are Roman Catholic as opposed to Christian Orthodox as in the rest of the country.

The women in Lviv, Ivano-Frankivsk look very different from the women elsewhere in the country. In fact, they resemble more of Polish women than the “typical” Ukrainian women you might be used to.

It’s hard to describe the difference but if you spend enough time in Kiev or other cities, you will be able to tell the difference between the women in the West and your typical Ukrainian girl who lives in Kiev or Dnipro.

If you ask me, I don’t really prefer the look of the Western Ukrainian women. They’re just too “bland” from my taste, and I much more prefer women from other parts of the country.

Kiev (Kyiv)

Kiev is the capital of Ukraine and its biggest city. While there are plenty of women who are originally from here, many of the women immigrated to the capital from other parts of the country.

One of the first things I do when I meet a new girl is to ask her where she’s from. This gets the ball rolling because the next logical question if she’s not from the capital, is to ask her where she’s from originally and go from there.

Since Kiev is an agglomeration of people from all over the country, it makes a great place to meet lots of different women. So, you may meet a light-skinned girl from the north of the country. Or you may meet a darker-skinned girl from southern part (Odessa, etc), or you may even meet women from the East (Dnepr, Donetsk, etc).

Ever since I’ve been living and dating in Kiev, I would say that 50% of the women I met are from Kiev and the other half are from some other city in the country. So, instead of living in some smaller 2nd or 3rd tier city where everyone is originally from there and everyone knows each other, in Kiev, you can meet women from all over the country.

It’s the same in other big cities around the world like New York City, São Paolo, Moscow or Paris.

Honestly, I think it’s much easier to date women in Kiev for two main reasons. First of all, it’s a big, cosmopolitan city. There’s lots of things to do. Tons of different restaurants, bars, coffee shops, events, etc. So, people are always going out and meeting others.

The other reason it’s really easy to meet people in Kiev is because women who came here from other cities did it for a reason. Many of them were escaping something. Perhaps it was the dire living situation, or a shitty job, or just wanted to escape their friends and meet new ones.

As someone who has traveled and lived abroad, this is something I completely understand. I also escaped my former life for new adventures and a new country. So, naturally I completely connect with these women and understand their mentality.

The flip side of this mentality is that people date a lot in Kiev. So, the girl who you just met and went on a date with will probably have another date tomorrow and the day after.

Women in Kiev don’t get attached to the people they’re dating as do women in other parts of the country. It’s sort of like living in New York City where everyone is always dating different people and nobody settles down.

Of course, it’s not that bad in Kiev, but you get the picture.

Southern Ukraine

Understanding southern Ukraine is very easy. There’s only one city that’s worth mentioning: Odessa. Odessa is a city Ukraine’s only major summer destination with its Black Sea coastline and decent beaches.

Though, make no mistake about it: Odessa’s beaches are nowhere near Caribbean or Thai beaches, but if you need to escape the scorching summer heat, it will do the trick.

The women in Odessa are a particular kind. First of all, they’re very dark and sexy. They also love to dress using the latest threads. Many would even call them high maintenance.

There’s probably some truth to the latter. When I spent a summer in Odessa, I met many women whose first question to me was whether I had a car, and, if so, if I could pick them up.

That’s in stark contrast to a place like Kiev where nobody cares if you have wheels.

Overall, I didn’t have much luck in Odessa. I found the women rather flaky, full of themselves, and very difficult to deal with. Perhaps it was the types of women I met; I have no doubt that decent, down-to-earth women exist there as well, but compared to other cities, it was a lot of work mostly for nothing.

So if you’re interested in meeting women in Odessa, make sure you have a decent bankroll in order to show these women a truly good time.

Eastern Ukraine

Eastern Ukraine contains cities such as Dnipro, Zaporojie, Donetsk, and Lugansk.

One thing that immediately comes to mind about this part of the country is “hard.” Compared to Western Europe or America, Eastern Europe is rather hard, but this region of the world really means it.

People are very direct and short on courtesy. So, you rarely see people saying “Hi” or “Bye” when entering and leaving a store as you witness in Kiev or Western Ukraine.

This is true for women as well.

First of all, women here are extremely feminine. Whereas in Kiev and Western Ukraine, women are gradually changing their styles to what Western women wear, in Eastern Ukraine, women still wear very high heels, short skirts, sexy dresses in the summer.

That’s probably how most of Central and Eastern Europe was about 10-20 years ago.

Dating doesn’t come with its own challenges.

First of all, I found it very hard to meet people. Since everyone who lives in each city is mostly from that city, people know each other since childhood and meeting new people is pretty rare.

It’s not like Kiev where a woman is excited to meet new people.

So, while it’s relatively easy to get numbers, getting them out on a date is like pulling teeth. They just don’t have much of a desire to meet a new man.

Nevertheless, if you do find a girl, chances are you’ll land yourself a quality woman who may stay with you for a while. At least that’s what I heard from some good friends who’ve lived there for several years.

As for Donetsk and Lugansk, unfortunately I didn’t have an opportunity to visit those cities because of the ongoing conflict with Russia. However, from what I heard

Final thoughts

At this point, we’ve come full circle and you may be wondering what’s the best place to meet women.

Well, the answer to that question is “it depends.”

In my opinion, Kiev is the best place to meet women. But if you’re looking for a challenge, there are plenty of other cities to explore and try your luck.

For a country with amazingly beautiful and feminine women who love to wear sexy outfits, Ukrainian women are still very traditional and, maybe even, also conservative.

This stumps and confuses a lot of foreigners who think that once they arrive in Ukraine, they’ll experience something similar to America’s “Spring Break,” where women will throw themselves at them and they will get laid the same time.

All of that is completely false.

In fact, dating in Ukraine is a very traditional affair. Unlike in America or the UK, it’s extremely rare to sleep with a woman on the same night. (One exception to this rule is if you meet her in the club and really hit it off, then it’s possible you may be able to bring her home, but I wouldn’t bet my house on it.)

All this means that dating is the norm. On average, it typically takes about three dates for you to seal the deal, although if you really connect, it can be as little as two.

Here’s an outline of my dating structure:

Date 1

For the first date, I typically invite them to a restaurant or wine bar and we order some wine. First of all, I enjoy a nice glass of wine. Second of all, wine is a solid choice for the first date because it helps with the awkwardness on the first date (especially if you met online and haven’t met before).

For the first hour, we talk about anything. I tell her about myself. I listen to her. It doesn’t really matter what the topic is, there will always be awkwardness on the first date.

Throughout the date, I study her behavior. Is she enjoying herself? Is she drinking her wine? Does she want another glass? Is she smiling and asking me questions? Is she flirting?

If possible, I like to at least get in a kiss on the first date to establish some kind of chemistry.

Date 2

For my plans on the second date, it really depends on the weather. If it’s warm and nice outside, I typically invite her for a walk in one of the parks or just along some neighborhood. (In the summer, I like to go for walks all around Kiev).

Another option is to have wine in another restaurant, but that’s a bit cliche, especially if you’ve already had wine on the first date.

If you really connected with her on the first date, then walking around and then inviting her back to your place to drink wine is a solid option.

Date 3

For the third date, I offer to cook something at my place. Coupled that with wine, and you have an irresistible offer that hardly any woman would pass up. Provided that she likes you in the first place.

It’s certainly not a great sign if she refused to come back to your place, but understand sometimes you may need more than three dates before becoming intimate.

Ask her out again and spend more time with her.

Introduction

OK, so, you’ve decided to get married. But instead of marrying a Western woman, where relationships are confusing and divorces are sky high, you made a conscious decision to marry a foreign woman, perhaps an Eastern European woman from Ukraine.

Well, I’m here to tell you that you definitely made the right decision. Ukrainian women are amazing. They’re beautiful, feminine, affectionate, traditional and make excellent wives.

But before you marry the first woman you meet, you must understand that not all marriages have a happy ending. There are all kinds of scams going on that will not only drain your wallet but can result in such deep heartbreak that you can be left in depression for weeks if not months.

Why get married?

First of all, let’s examine the institution of marriage and your reasons to get married. Marriage is serious business and should be treated as such.

That means you should never get married because of some emotions or feelings. Always treat it as a business partnership. Seriously consider marriage if the woman you’re with can genuinely add some value to the table.

So, when you’re screening women for marriage, ask yourself what do they bring to the table? Do they have a good job and a career? Maybe their family is wealthy and can help you get settled.

Where to find Ukrainian women for marriage?

This is super important because the places you’re seeking these women will determine what kind of women you meet. For instance, a club is a great place to meet women but there’s a good chance most of the women you’ll be meeting there won’t be exactly marriage material.

Online dating is another great way to meet women as apps like Tinder have surged in popularity lately. On the other hand, most women go on these apps to look for short-term flings and not serious relationships so they might not be suitable for something like marriage.

Meeting women during the day is a solid strategy as well. There, you’re able to meet all kinds of women, so unlike meeting women clubs or on apps like Tinder, you’ll meet women who’re interested in long-term relationships as well as short-term flings.

There are also all kinds of “marriage agencies” where, for a fee, you can be introduced to women who’re specifically looking for marriage. Personally, I don’t have much experience in this area, so I can’t advise you further.

One of the best ways to meet women for dating is a healthy social circle. In my experience, this puts women who are already trusted and vetted by others and not some random unknown woman you might meet in a nightclub for a short-term fling.

If you don’t have a healthy social circle, another option is events and meetups where you can meet people with similar interests to yourself.

How to determine if she’s marriage material

Not all women are marriage material. The old adage, “You can’t turn a whore into a housewife” is absolutely true. A woman is either marriage material or she isn’t.

Here are some signs to look for in your future wife:

• Good relationships with family. This is one of the most important indicators of whether the woman will make a great wife. Does she have great relationships with her mother? Does she have a great relationship with her father? The latter is probably more important than the former. If a woman doesn’t have great relationships with her father, that might indicate she will not have great relationships with other men in her life. On the other hand, she has great relationships with her parents, that’s a solid sign she will make a great wife.
• Doesn’t drink too much. I don’t think it’s a dealbreaker if a woman drinks socially; one or two drinks is fine every now and then. However, I would sense red flags if a woman loves going out and have a bit too many drinks more than a few times. That shows a lack of control more than anything. And, you definitely don’t want this trait in your future wife.
• Financially responsible. I don’t care how much money your woman earns, but it’s a huge red flag if she spends her entire salary on clothes and makeup and doesn’t save anything. I’ve met plenty of women who have zero financial sense, and don’t believe there’s anything wrong with that. You certainly don’t to marry a woman who will spend her and your money on expensive clothes and bags that she can’t afford.
• Deeply cares about you. This is a rather obvious point, but you would be surprised how many men become infatuated with women who are only interested in using them for something else: money, moving to a rich country, etc. For more information to determine if she really loves you, see here.

Should you bring your Ukrainian wife to America?

This is something you have to really think about it. I personally wouldn’t do it. When you bring your Ukrainian wife to the US, you expose her to all the bad elements of American culture (feminism, non-traditional values, etc) and risk your wife rapidly losing her traditional Ukrainian values that attracted you into her in the first place.

I have heard countless stories where American men brought their new wives back to America only for the marriage to end in ruins few weeks (!) or months later. Now, granted, this doesn’t happen to everyone. I’m sure there are plenty of great marriages that last for a long time, but this is something you should keep in mind.

Of course, this is provided you can remain in Ukraine or earn money online. If your life and work are back in America, then I suppose you have no choice but to bring your Ukrainian wife to the US.

Final thoughts

So, there you have it. While Ukrainian women make great wives, not all Ukrainian women are wife material. Remember: marriage is a serious decision and must be treated as such. If you feel, she won’t be a great wife, keep searching. There are plenty of great women out there. One of them will surely make you a very happy man.

Introduction

Lots have been written about Ukrainian women. Adjectives like feminine, traditional, graceful, and, of course, beautiful are typically thrown around.

And, after living here for more than seven years, I have to say that I must agree. They’re all that. They easily represent all those adjectives. But, like anything else, it’s not that simple, with femininity and beauty comes increased responsibility and other things. Dating Ukrainian women automatically exposes you to things that you may not be aware of.

But, still, it’s great to be single in a country with so many beautiful women running around. I honestly don’t know what I would do if I was married or in a serious relationship.

In all honesty, I couldn’t have picked a better place to be single if I tried.

Yep—I’m one lucky SOB.

In this article, I want to share with you my experiences, what I learned, and the general do’s and don’ts of dating some of the most beautiful, sexiest and feminine women that have graced this fine earth.

Ukrainian women characteristics

Traditional culture

In the face of the rapidly Westernizing world, Ukrainian women are still relatively traditional. Now, of course, Western influences and Westernization is sweeping across the world and, unless you’ve been living in a cave for the past twenty years, you’ll discover that Ukrainian women are also watching shows like Sex And The City, take CrossFit classes and dream about Gucci bags.

Honestly, this surprised me at first, too. Just the other day, I discovered that the girl I’m currently dating loves watching shows such as Suits, Lucifer, and Orange Is The New Black. Plus a bunch of other shows I know about, but don’t watch. She’s from a small town in Ukraine and has never even been to America.

But that’s where the similarities between Ukrainian and Western women end. 99.9% of Ukrainian women absolutely want to get married and have kids. That’s unlike America where things like career easily take precedence over having marriage and kids.

In America, it’s perfectly normal to be a woman who’s 35 or 45 and not be married or have kids; there’s absolutely no stigma there.

In Ukraine, however, this would be considered weird or strange. Not long ago, Ukrainian women used to get married around the age of 25, nowadays, this occurs closer to the age of 30.

If a Ukrainian woman approaches the crucial age of 28-30 and still hasn’t gotten married (while most of her friends have), the outside pressure is so high that she starts to believe that something is wrong and her behavior will change accordingly.

For women in Ukraine, the rush is on to get married and have kids by the age of 30.

Where to meet Ukrainian women

Ukrainian women are easygoing and fairly receptive to be approached out and about so it’s usually not a problem to meet them out in public in places like the street, coffee shops, restaurants, stores, etc.

I’ve met lots of women in all of the above places so it’s not like one place is better than another. One thing I noticed is how relaxed they were when I approached them in places like coffee shops, restaurants or simply walking on the street. It was as though being approached by a random stranger was a routine part of their day.

Another option is to meet women online using the multitude of online dating sites and dating apps. The notable apps are Tinder, Badoo, Bumble and others.

I won’t deny that I’ve also met a good share of women online, but must admit that the quality tends to be lower than approaching women in the wild.

Big cities vs small cities

Common sense dictates that people are generally friendlier and more approachable in smaller cities than huge metropolises. My experience has actually been the opposite.

I’ve actually found it much easier to meet women in the bigger cities than smaller ones. It was easier to meet and connect with women in a big city like Kiev than smaller 2nd/3rd tier cities like Lviv, Chernigov, Poltava, and even Dnipro or Odessa.

Most likely that’s because bigger cities are generally much more open and cosmopolitan not to mention that the inhabitants there aren’t just for the big city but have also immigrated from other parts of the country in search of better opportunities.

The ideal age range

When I initially moved to Ukraine, I went out with women of all age ranges, with most of these women being in their early 30s and even a few in the mid-30s.

I figured dating women closer to my age made sense since that would mean we’d have more things in common. (I’m in my 30s).

Eventually, I realized that something happens with a woman once she reaches the magical age of 30-32. By that age, chances are she’s had lots of experience with plenty of guys and, has consequently, experienced lots of rejections, a couple of failed long-term relationships, and maybe even a failed marriage or two.

As a result, a good portion of these 32+-year-old women become frustrated and jaded. They’re frustrated because they’ve reached an age where most of their friends are getting married and even having kids, but, yet, all they have to show for are a couple of failed relationships (or lots of failed flings with lots of random guys).

In Ukraine, women who are 32-years-old also tend to lose that “freshness” that is typically associated with younger women in their 20s. They lose that sparkle in their eyes and tend to blame their inability to find a good man onto the world.

Many women around the age of 31 or 32 who’re still single give up the search for more serious relationships and decide to let life just take its course.

Of course, having said that, I don’t remember ever meeting a single woman over 32 years old who wasn’t particularly frustrated as to why she couldn’t find a “good man” and get married.

In fact, my biggest dating and relationship frustrations were usually with women over the age of 32-33 (the older the woman, the greater the frustrations). So much so, that, after time, I stopped going after those older women altogether.

On the other side of the spectrum, there are the young women in their early 20s. I have several friends who don’t date women over 25. Personally, I’m not much of a fan of women that young; I find them too immature and don’t really have much in common with them. But if that’s your thing, then by all means, go for it.

The best age range to target—especially if you’re looking for a long-term relationship or marriage—is a woman in her late 20s, so someone who’s 27-29. A woman in this age range has had her share of fun and is now realizing that she’s getting older and is thinking about settling down and getting married.

Furthermore, if you’re interested in getting married and having children, it’s crucial to understand that a woman’s reproductive ability starts to gradually diminish starting with the age of 30; after the age of 35, her chances of getting pregnant decrease rapidly.

Obviously, if you’re younger than 30, you’re naturally going to be aiming for women in their 20s. But even if you’re under, say, 45, there’s also little reason to date women in their early-mid 30s and up unless that’s what you specifically want; aiming for women in their mid-to-late-20s is perfectly fine and culturally acceptable.

Dating do’s and don’ts

Since Ukrainian women are fairly traditional, you must reprogram your behavior if you come from a predominantly Western country such as America, Canada, Australia, the UK, Western Europe, etc.

In the West (especially in the big coastal liberal cities), it’s very common for women to be more masculine and competitive, but in fairly traditional countries such as Ukraine, things work very differently.

For instance, the “ball-busting” attitude that works so well in Western countries and America will not work well in Ukraine. I can’t imagine a single Ukrainian woman that will respond well to the typical American “ballbusting” and posturing.

Instead, Ukrainian women respond better to what I call the “nice guy with an edge” game. That is, smooth and friendly—but still aggressive—seduction without the negative, jerk behavior.

I can’t count how many times I fell into the “ball-busting” trap and ended up killing all my chances with a particular woman. I also remember numerous times when I was acting like a jerk mainly because I was frustrated with her lack of interest and also believed that acting like an inconsiderate jerk would somehow improve my chances with her. That worked pretty much zero percent of the time. Don’t make that mistake.

The dating game plan

I generally follow “three date rule” when dating Ukrainian women. Unlike in the US, where one-night-stands are fairly common, it’s fairly rare to sleep with a Ukrainian woman on a first date. This usually happens by the third date or so.

I’m also not a huge fan of “day dates.” I never invite or accept an invitation to getting coffee, lunch or walk around during the daytime. Instead, my preferred method for a first date is something like beer or wine at a restaurant, bar or lounge.

That’s because I want to send a message that I’m interested in her romantically and not looking for another “friend” with whom she can drink some coffee during her lunch hour. Meeting at a cozy restaurant or bar for a drink in the evening is a great way to do that.

Another great idea is to invite the girl back to your house to have some wine and enjoy a great meal. You have a cool pad in the center and know how to cook, right? I wouldn’t recommend it for an initial date or two but is super ideal for the third date or so.

I expect intimate relations to commence on the 2nd or 3rd date. So, it’s a bad sign if things are dragging into the 4th or 5th date and the woman still refuses to come back to your place. Unless she has a very good reason, 99% of the time it means she’s not attracted to you in a sexual way.

I noticed that many of my best and most fulfilling relationships moved extremely fast right from the get-go. There was an instant attraction and we couldn’t get our hands off each other.

Dating red flags

If you’re courting a woman, it’s crucial to be aware of the common red flags. These are signs that a woman gives off when her interest in you is lukewarm at best.

Don’t pursue (or actively pursue) women who wait too long before replying to your messages or calls.

While I understand that people are busy and everyone is trying to do a million things at once, I don’t like to wait too long for responses from anyone. Call me impatient, but I typically don’t bother pursuing women who take hours to reply (or, worse, days). Obviously, that means she’s got more important things to do than to meet a new man.

Don’t do day dates.

The second red flag is when a woman suggests to meet up during the day (because she’s “busy” at night). As I wrote above, day dates are not ideal for a magnitude of reasons. I usually schedule my dates for 7-8pm, which is not too early but also not too late (in case she needs to wake up early the next day). So, if a woman categorically refuses to meet at around 7-8pm, I take it as a sign that she’s not too interested and has better options.

Don’t meet her on her terms.

Another red flag is when a woman is unwilling to meet up in a place you suggest (typically the center or a centralized neighborhood of the city).

I mostly rent apartments in the center of every city that I stay in. But because it’s fairly expensive to live in the center of any city, many locals can’t afford to have a pad in the center and, instead, live in more remote neighborhoods.

Naturally, I always propose to have a date in the center simply because there are more things to do; it’s the center after all.

Even if you’re not based in the center, you should still offer to meet there. The only exception is if you’re both located outside the center but live close to each other.

I’ve had women that were unwilling to go to the center and would say things like, “I’m too tired. Let’s meet in a coffee shop outside my house or in my neighborhood.” Her neighborhood would typically be 20-45 mins outside of the city center.

I also had women tell me, “At 7 pm, I would be in this shopping center,” as a response to my offer to meet up after work. Naturally, this shopping center would also not be in the center.

Many men would be tempted to drive out to her neighborhood, thinking that because they’re near her house, this means the date would somehow lead to an easy score. That’s a trap.

When a woman doesn’t want to meet in the center—where you propose and where all the action is—it means she’s not willing to put in the effort to see you, pure and simple. Move on.

Don’t pursue women who try to educate you on the role of the sexes.

One thing I noticed with older, 30+ women, is that they always seem to be “experts” on the man’s role and women’s role in a relationship.

It seems that most of these women have had so many failed relationships that they now spend their time voraciously reading self-help and relationship magazines written by other women in order to figure out what men want.

These include women who will recite you passages from books such as Men Are Mars; Women Are Venus and others.

These women think they’ve figured everything out except how to be happy. Avoid them.

Pass over women who meet the criteria above, and you’ll be less frustrated with women who want nothing to do with you and be one step closer to meeting the women who actually want to spend time with you.

Relationships

How relationships work in Eastern Europe

In the West, you can be dating or living with a girl for many years without making it “official.” But in Ukraine, the end goal of all relationships is marriage and children. I have never met a single Ukrainian woman who didn’t want to get married or didn’t want to have children.

That’s why, for the most, relationships move fast in Ukraine. I’ve had situations where I would meet a girl and then a month later, she would almost move into my apartment, or I would be spending most nights at hers.

Unlike in the West, where you have to compete with a million other things for a woman’s time and attention, there’s never that “busy vibe” in Eastern Europe. A woman who likes you will always make herself available to you and not pretend to be busy because she has pilates in Wednesday or yoga on Friday.

One of my friends from Odessa, recently told me how he met a girl on the beach and proposed to her after only three weeks. They’re now happily married and are expecting their first child.

Another friend of mine met a girl on the street in downtown Kiev. After two weeks, she moved into his apartment. They were engaged two months later.

In Eastern Europe, people waste less time “dating” around. The end goal is always marriage and kids.

Relationship red flags

After dating lots and lots of Ukrainian women and having a handful of relationships (some serious), I now want to talk about some of the red flags in a relationship.

As a foreigner, the number one thing you need to concern yourself with is being with a woman who doesn’t really love you and genuinely enjoys your company, but is only using you as a gateway to a better life (ie, she wants to immigrate to your rich country—more on that below). Or she’s simply using you for money.

This is an insidiously difficult thing to notice because when a man is in love, he’s blind to everything else.

Avoid women who aren’t happy in Ukraine and want to immigrate to another country

As a foreigner, you will be a natural target for such women.

Many Ukrainian women believe that Western countries like America or England are exponentially better for having a quality life because in those places “money grows on trees” and great-paying jobs are everywhere.

Actually, this can’t be further from the truth. What they don’t know is that getting a nice job in a place like America requires demonstrable skills (ie, being a doctor or nurse), skills that they don’t have.

Second—and most importantly—if a woman isn’t happy in Ukraine and wants to move to America without a goal or objective (and a Fortune 500 company offering her a great job), there are deeper issues beneath the surface.

Who says she’ll be happy in America? Who says she won’t want to immigrate somewhere else after six months or a year?

It’s much better to meet a woman who’s already happy where she is right now and isn’t itching to pack up and move somewhere new. A woman who’s well-established in her country and city would make a better long-term partner than someone who’s constantly itching to move.

Avoid women who want to use you

I’ve dated women where all I did was take them out, bought them stuff, had sex every now and then, but still felt I was being used in some way.

Many times the girl was indifferent to me and mostly used me as a tool to enhance herself in one way or another.

A great way to see if your girl is really into you is to ask her to do something for you. It can be something as simple as calling a hotel to make a reservation where you’re about to stay on the weekend to something more complicated where she can help you by leveraging her professional connections or family.

If she won’t go out of her way to help you, it probably means she doesn’t really care about you and is only with you because of what you can do for her financially or because of your status.

Marriage

As mentioned above, the goal of all relationships is eventual marriage and children. Only the most naive of the naive men think they can simply “date” a Ukrainian woman for five or ten years without making any sort of commitment like you can with an American woman.

Ukrainian women are especially suitable for marriage. They’re traditional, family oriented and appreciate being in a committed relationship.

While Ukrainian culture isn’t as patriarchal and strict as the ones in some Muslim countries, A Ukrainian woman would never “disobey” her husband like the “independent” Western women. She will never tell you, “you don’t own me” or “who do you think you are.”

Once you marry a Ukrainian woman, you assume all the responsibility and the woman would respect your authority and follow your lead.

Marriage scams

Having said that, it’s important to be aware of the common marriage scams that are associated with this part of the world.

There are a lot of scams happening in Ukraine. From the “fake policeman” scam who extort money from foreigners on the streets to various apartment scams, but nothing matches the “marriage scam” in heartache and financial loss.

I’ve personally received no less than ten emails from readers this year who were scammed by Ukrainian women into marrying them and then broke things off. They either met them on some online site or in person while they were visiting Ukraine. In retrospect, the scams are all exactly the same.

A foreigner (usually an American or Brit) either goes to Ukraine and meets the girl there or he meets here beforehand on one of the dating sites. They commence the relationship. After a while, they decide to get married (usually at the woman’s urging).

Once she reaches America’s shores, the woman’s mood changes. She begins to disrespect her new husband. They begin arguing more often. Eventually, she files for divorce. At this point, she most likely found a wealthier suitor to marry her so she’s able to remain in the country.

This actually happened to a Ukrainian friend of mine who is living in New York. He met a girl in Ukraine, kept in touch with her for a few years, got married, brought her over and then the trouble began.

They ended up getting divorced and she went back to her homeland.

Of course, I’m not saying that this will happen with every woman you meet. There are plenty of great women with whom you can have amazing relationships; I’ve had such relationships with many of them myself. But there are also many bad apples who are very skilled at manipulating guys to get what they want.

Ukrainian women: the ugly truth

Ukrainian women are awesome. I honestly don’t think I’ve been in another country which had as many beautiful women as in Ukraine. Not only that but their traditional background also makes them excellent wife material.

Nevertheless, I would be lying if I finished this guide without mentioning the negatives. First of all, there’s a noticeable transactional element when it comes to your relationship with your Ukrainian girlfriend.

It’s a given that she’ll never whip out her wallet for anything. There’s no such thing as “going Dutch” or splitting the bill. If she’s with you, she expects you to pay.

Most of the women I met are also overly materialistic and status-seeking. I’ve known women who spent all their life savings on a new $900 iPhone—when they lived on the outskirts of the city in a rundown neighborhood and were making just $200/month.

I’ve also known women who would have zero financial accountability and would blow their entire paychecks on expensive clothes and bags. All knowing that they had zero savings in the bank.

Buying gifts (some expensive) are also fairly common. So, your girlfriend might get pretty pissed off at you if you fly back home to New York City, London or Los Angeles and return without a new iPhone or trendy (and not cheap) pair of shoes.

This is obviously a far cry from a typical Western woman who would never beg you to buy her an iPhone or a Victoria Secret lingerie.

Be picky and filter ruthlessly

Looking back at my serial dating lifestyle, one thing I regret the most was not ruthlessly filtering women that I knew right away weren’t really into me, or I wasn’t really into them.

Thanks to a plethora of online dating apps, Instagram, and even unlimited opportunities to meet women out in the wild, you can meet lots and lots of women and then have the luxury to filter out the ones you want.

Sometimes you don’t know what’s going on but feel something is off. Maybe you feel that a woman is trying to use or play you, or maybe she’s fantastic but you’re not crazy about her. The solution is to let her ago and keep looking. There are plenty more fish where that came from. Don’t waste your time on “maybe’s.”

Nowadays, I don’t have a problem killing a date in mid-sentence if I feel it’s going to be a waste of time.

Good luck.