I love Tinder. Whether you hate it or love it, I simply don’t know of a better way to meet lots of women in the fastest possible time.
While the popularity of the app has mostly decreased in the West (including America), it has risen in popularity in countries such as Russia and Ukraine.
I’ve personally met hundreds of different women via Tinder in the few years that I’ve been living in Ukraine.
Having said, meeting women on Tinder is certainly not a walk in the park. So, in order for you to be successful, there are certain rules you must follow.
In this guide, I want to discuss some of the ways of successfully meeting Ukrainian women.
Install the app
I’m assuming you have the app installed and know how to use it. Setup your profile, put some decent pictures (not too creepy) and begin swiping.
Ukraine is a country where it’s fairly easy to rack up a lot of matches. Unlike in LA or NYC, you don’t need to look like a model who’s 6’1 with six-pack abs.
If you’re not getting any matches, please check your pictures and your profile description.
The biggest problem with Tinder in Ukraine is that, while you should be able to match many women, only a small percentage of those women will actually be interested in seeing you in person.
In other countries, once you match a woman, there’s a good chance that she’ll truly interested and wants to see you, but in Ukraine, many women have no problem swiping right (matching you) and just chatting with you (or ignoring you) without any intent of actually going out with you. It can be very frustrating if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Thus, your objective on Tinder should not be to spend a lot of time chatting and getting to know each other: it’s to setup the meet as soon as possible.
Making the first move
Before you can meet a woman in real life, you must first contact her.
I don’t have any elaborate ways of contacting the women that I matched. I simply write, “Hello” and go from there.
I wouldn’t recommend starting off with a compliment or anything like that. At this point, you’re just feeling out her interest.
Always wait before she replies before following up. Do not send another message if she didn’t reply to the first one.
If she doesn’t have the interest to reply, that means that she’s probably not interested and has better things to do. Move on and begin contacting other women.
Since my goal isn’t to waste a lot of time with each individual woman, I have a specific conversation structure that lets me setup a meet quickly as well as get rid of women who aren’t interested in meeting.
After the initial “Hi” or maybe some small talk, I usually like to wait several hours and then ask them if they’d like to meet outright.
The other technique I’ve developed is to ask them if I can add them to a popular messaging app. This usually means Viber or Telegram (if you don’t have those apps, install them because that’s how people in Russia and Ukraine communicate).
In order for you to add them to your list of contacts on Viber/Telegram, she needs to give you her number. If she’s willing to do that, it means she has a certain level of interest and intent.
Of course, it’s possible that she gives you her number and then decides to not meet you at all. That has definitely happened. Although, I believe it’s much more likely that she has no interest in meeting you if she doesn’t give you her number in the first place.
The conversation structure goes like this:
1) Like their profile
2) Get a match
3) Send a simple “Hi”
4) Quick chat
5) “Let me add you on Viber/Telegram” (or “Let’s meet up directly”)
6) “Let’s meet up”
7) Arrange a meet up at a mutually convenient time
The fact that women readily match you means you should be very picky with the women you pursue. It also means you must ruthlessly filter out the women who aren’t interested in you or have low interest.
If a woman doesn’t reply to your initial message or replies several days (or weeks), chances are that she isn’t very interested.
If a woman doesn’t reply to your subsequent message, I let it go and move on other women.
If everything goes well, and she agrees to meet up “sometime” but ignores your request to give you her number so you can add it to Viber, you should move on.
As you can see, the entire process is a process of elimination from the initial like, to the match, to the conversation, to getting number, and finally arranging the meet.
The ability to match lots and lots of women means you’re not really concerned if certain women don’t reply to your messages or show low interest in meeting.
The bottom line is that focusing on just the women who’re interested and willing to meet up with you will cut vastly cut down on all the bullshit and make way less frustrated in the process—even if it means focusing on just five women out of 30 or so that you matched.
If you follow this model, sooner or later, you will have a list of women who’re interested in seeing you. At that point, it becomes a matter of logistics.
Be aware of red flags
There are certain things that you must watch out for during the courting process on Tinder. The first red flag are women who don’t want to meet you at the location you specify.
For example, let’s say you’re chatting with a woman and she’s responsive and wants to meet up. You suggest to meet at a park or a restaurant in the center. She declines, saying there’s going to be a lot of traffic or that she’s tired and doesn’t want to go anywhere.
“I don’t feel like meeting that far, let’s meet in my neighborhood”
Often times, you may invite a woman out to meet in the center of the city but declines. She may also counteroffer and ask you to meet her near her place.
This is a big red flag. While it may seem tempting that you’ll be meeting her in her hood, possibly near her apartment, it’s a trap because she has interest or desire to even go to the place you suggested.
“Can you pick me up?”
Another common scenario occurs when you’ve asked her to meet up at some nice bar/restaurant downtown but, because she doesn’t live in the center and doesn’t want to take public transportation, she asks you if you can pick her up.
This is also a huge red flag because if a woman really wanted to meet a new man, she wouldn’t have any issues taking the metro or taxi to your chosen destination.
Since I don’t have a car, my response is always, “Sorry, I don’t have a car.”
Then, I pause and wait for her response. If she doesn’t agree to meet up, then it’s just not meant to be.
“What’s your goal on Tinder?”
Once in a while, a woman will ask you the typical question such as “What’s your goal on Tinder?”
The reason they ask this question is because they understand that Tinder was envisioned specifically as a hookup tool and such questions serve as a way to filter out guys who they consider as being interested in only sex.
This is a typical “shit test” and is a way to test a man’s reaction when put in an unexpected situation.
I never concern myself with the “right” answer to such question. There’s no right answer anyway.
I typically respond with something like, “I was searching for you.” Or, “Do I need a reason to use this app?”
That usually defuses the situation and we go back to flirting.
Rebuilding lost conversations
Matches die. Whether she didn’t reply to your initial message or you couldn’t agree on a good meeting time, it’s completely common to have a list of contacts that are “hanging in the air” because you’re waiting for a response, and you’re wondering what to do next.
In fact, I would say that at least 50% (if not more) of your matches would die out and go nowhere.
I won’t sugarcoat things, but it’s typically a bad sign if you asked a girl something and she didn’t reply within an hour or two (the faster, the better).
Since I usually have tons of matches, I don’t bother messaging women who didn’t reply to my last message.
Nevertheless, if I like the girl and feel there’s some potential, I will send her another message and see if she responds.
If she doesn’t respond to this message within a reasonable time frame, then usually means she’s too busy or not interested. I let it go.
If you’ve read this far, congratulations, you now have the skills that few guys when it comes to meeting and dating beautiful Ukrainian women.
Best of luck to you regardless if you’re just looking for fun with many women or trying to find the one for a more serious relationship.