OK, so, you've decided to get married. But instead of marrying a Western woman, where relationships are confusing and divorces are sky high, you made a conscious decision to marry a foreign woman, perhaps an Eastern European woman from Ukraine.
Well, I'm here to tell you that you definitely made the right decision. Ukrainian women are amazing. They're beautiful, feminine, affectionate, traditional and make excellent wives.
But before you marry the first woman you meet, you must understand that not all marriages have a happy ending. There are all kinds of scams going on that will not only drain your wallet but can result in such deep heartbreak that you can be left in depression for weeks if not months.
Why get married?
First of all, let's examine the institution of marriage and your reasons to get married. Marriage is serious business and should be treated as such.
That means you should never get married because of some emotions or feelings. Always treat it as a business partnership. Seriously consider marriage if the woman you're with can genuinely add some value to the table.
So, when you're screening women for marriage, ask yourself what do they bring to the table? Do they have a good job and a career? Maybe their family is wealthy and can help you get settled.
Where to find Ukrainian women for marriage?
This is super important because the places you're seeking these women will determine what kind of women you meet. For instance, a club is a great place to meet women but there's a good chance most of the women you'll be meeting there won't be exactly marriage material.
Online dating is another great way to meet women as apps like Tinder have surged in popularity lately. On the other hand, most women go on these apps to look for short-term flings and not serious relationships so they might not be suitable for something like marriage.
Meeting women during the day is a solid strategy as well. There, you're able to meet all kinds of women, so unlike meeting women clubs or on apps like Tinder, you'll meet women who're interested in long-term relationships as well as short-term flings.
There are also all kinds of "marriage agencies" where, for a fee, you can be introduced to women who're specifically looking for marriage. Personally, I don't have much experience in this area, so I can't advise you further.
One of the best ways to meet women for dating is a healthy social circle. In my experience, this puts women who are already trusted and vetted by others and not some random unknown woman you might meet in a nightclub for a short-term fling.
If you don't have a healthy social circle, another option is events and meetups where you can meet people with similar interests to yourself.
How to determine if she's marriage material
Not all women are marriage material. The old adage, "You can't turn a whore into a housewife" is absolutely true. A woman is either marriage material or she isn't.
Here are some signs to look for in your future wife:
- Good relationships with family. This is one of the most important indicators of whether the woman will make a great wife. Does she have great relationships with her mother? Does she have a great relationship with her father? The latter is probably more important than the former. If a woman doesn't have great relationships with her father, that might indicate she will not have great relationships with other men in her life. On the other hand, she has great relationships with her parents, that's a solid sign she will make a great wife.
- Doesn't drink too much. I don't think it's a dealbreaker if a woman drinks socially; one or two drinks is fine every now and then. However, I would sense red flags if a woman loves going out and have a bit too many drinks more than a few times. That shows a lack of control more than anything. And, you definitely don't want this trait in your future wife.
- Financially responsible. I don't care how much money your woman earns, but it's a huge red flag if she spends her entire salary on clothes and makeup and doesn't save anything. I've met plenty of women who have zero financial sense, and don't believe there's anything wrong with that. You certainly don't to marry a woman who will spend her and your money on expensive clothes and bags that she can't afford.
- Deeply cares about you. This is a rather obvious point, but you would be surprised how many men become infatuated with women who are only interested in using them for something else: money, moving to a rich country, etc. For more information to determine if she really loves you, see here.
Should you bring your Ukrainian wife to America?
This is something you have to really think about it. I personally wouldn't do it. When you bring your Ukrainian wife to the US, you expose her to all the bad elements of American culture (feminism, non-traditional values, etc) and risk your wife rapidly losing her traditional Ukrainian values that attracted you into her in the first place.
I have heard countless stories where American men brought their new wives back to America only for the marriage to end in ruins few weeks (!) or months later. Now, granted, this doesn't happen to everyone. I'm sure there are plenty of great marriages that last for a long time, but this is something you should keep in mind.
Of course, this is provided you can remain in Ukraine or earn money online. If your life and work are back in America, then I suppose you have no choice but to bring your Ukrainian wife to the US.
So, there you have it. While Ukrainian women do make great wives, not all Ukrainian women are wife material. Remember: marriage is a serious decision and must be treated as such. If you feel, she won't be a great wife, keep searching. There are plenty of great women out there. One of them will surely make you a very happy man.
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